Standards Never Met

I was talking to God today, and something hit me deep.  I had set expectations for certain people that they would never meet. What do I mean?  In both of my marriages and in my dating life, I had set expectations of these men that they would never have been able to meet.   I had set a bar too high.  I expected that they would want to reach as high as I did.   I expected them to love me in place of the love I didn't receive from my mother.  I thought they would have the same morals I did.  I believed they were as goal-oriented as I was.  I was really dumb to believe either of my husbands would understand marriage and what it is to be a husband.  Don't get me wrong, because there are expectations I have for myself.  I'm far from perfect.  I have expectations I don't always live up to.  The issue comes when making expectations that will never be met because that person is incapable.  I have learned to expect only what I see the person is capable of.  It's not a trust issue; it's a character issue.  If I can set expectations based on what I can achieve, I have to start doing the same for people.  I've also learned that there are people who are willing to go but a certain extent.  They have no expectations for themselves.  Literally meet people where they are, and watch to see if there's a change.  Yet, don't set expectations you know they can't reach.  They will fail you every time.